If it’s one thing that is at the forefront of my life right now, it’s the two polar opposing energies, or at least they appear to be opposing. As I drop into the centre of my life right now I am faced with the eternal question, do I trust or do I withdraw and take the route of safety and security? That old automated way, that easy and comfortable way. It’s what seems logical. The brain seems hardwired for it.
Yet what I have learned from the years I have spent with those I love, from those whom inspire me, from my beloved is that that nothing of true value ever arrives without a complete surrender.
There is a point at which I must totally go beyond fear, to edge towards the precipice, towards the chasm that lies beyond the known world, from which a new world awaits. A world outside my comfort zone.
Just last night I watched Jim Carrey’s speech at the Maharishi’s University in USA, he spoke about how you can choose safety and security like his father did and still fail or you can choose what you absolutely love and like Jim succeed. He spoke full of love saying to give your whole heart to your passion and if you fail, keep going, try again and know in your heart that there is something far greater within you than fear. People who are gripped by it will want to tell you not to trust, to do what is safe because they haven’t allowed themselves to reach for their dreams.
Jim spoke about shining your brightest light will make the world a place worth living in.
So as I sit with this, as I feel into the potency of the space I am in at present, my life that I have approached with fear and my beloved who has been coaching me to trust deeper than I have ever dared, I find myself like the skydiver in a perfectly good aeroplane edging on his seat knowing that I am ready to take my greatest leap of faith, ever. Knowing that living with such a deep trust is going to be absolutely exhilarating.
Yet, I have found myself wavering. Wanting security, wanting to know exactly how my future will look, especially with my beloved, wanting her to give me the assurance that we will be together, that the obstacles we face must be overcome now, before I am to fully commit. Yet, I’ve blamed her for not committing. In my thoughts I point and say it is you that’s scared, you that wants all the answers before they are present, it is you that can’t commit yet. Though as I look deeper I know it is me that isn’t trusting. Me that’s afraid. It is me that has been placing responsibility on her to make me happy.
So, yes, I have been scared and vulnerable. That, was when I let go, that, was when I felt free. At that time, an ancient, deep sadness overcame me. It was then that I knew no relationship could rescue me from the pain of my own suffering. The pain that comes from knowing, no body else will ever complete me, not even my beloved. The marriage that I thought was pure, had been tainted by my own insecurities and I didn’t even know it until I faced the fears and sat within the depths of my own heart, courageous enough to know what lay at my own core. A truth that became evident as I searched in the depths, among the ashes of my ego’s lies. I realised then, it isn’t about what I am doing, what job I have, who I am with, but the presence I bring to everything I do. What vibration/consciousness do I carry into these things? How much attention do I give to each moment? Am I fighting life or am I making love to each and everything I come into contact with. No, I have placed conditions on the world, on my beloved, on my family, my friends and on life before giving my total presence.
I have not loved fully. No, not even close. I have been blaming my beloved for being conditional with her love and here I had not even been witness to my own conditions I have placed on how she turns up. How can love flourish when there is so much I have been asking to be different before I turn up without conditions?
There have been so many times when I had no idea of the outcome, no idea if what I wanted would happen or not, no guarantee that I would achieve and succeed in my dreams. It was then at that time that my beloved prompted me to trust. It was her that would encourage me to step outside my fears and drive out the demons of my pessimism born from my past disappointments. It was her who knocked on the doors of my heart to find the little child within weeping, curled up in foetal position, it was her that entered softly, gently, to tell him, “you are completely loved.”
Now it’s me that holds the little child. Because today, me and my beloved are separated by thousands of miles, oceans and continents between us, no guarantees or certainties of outcome.
I am reminded that as I am faced with primordial fears that have my little child within feeling like a crippled emotional dinosaur in the land of the dead, that there is a power that still carries me. There is something far bigger than I am aware of. It is this power that gives my life breath, it is this that gives ALL life breath. It is this that gives my life a vantage point above all of the entire world, a perspective that shifts the entirety of my soul. There is a unifying force animating all living things. It is into this that I surrender.
It is not up to me, that little me that had been gripped by fear, no, it is up to life and my alignment with this power that recreates all that is needed to be born in this world.
So when I was working, cleaning, performing a duty that my mind claimed was not my life purpose, it was then I realised, everything is my life purpose. Who I am and everything I do is in it’s own rite, sacred and truly purposeful. I may not know the future between me and my beloved right now but I do feel love, it begins with me. Not in the saying of words, but in the grace that comes with letting life in. In surrender and embrace, not in conflict with what is.
I do know that there have been miracles, I know that I forgot to create space for miracles in my loving because I became scared, but that’s ok, I forgive myself. I can hold space for the bridges to appear. I can find the the reunion in my own heart. My attention is not on me now, it is on life, it is on the sanctity of my own heart. To rest in my own inner beloved. I know I have hurt my partner because of my fear and she has also hurt me because of her fear. I am now taking responsibility for my part in withdrawing the suffering in my life, for ending adding any additional pain in my relationships and in the world. Whatever happens, I can, again and again return to choose love. Whatever comes of my marriage, between me and my beloved, I can always end the conflict in my own being. Trusting that love, that life finds a way. Because it is possible that life is love, just the way it is.
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